Last Wednesday was our last day with the boys at the orphanage, and it was by far our best. Our relationship with them had really been strengthening and picking up steam in the last week or so, and it seemed to really all peak on Wednesday. We got there a little earlier than usual to spend a bit more time with them and were rewarded with an hour of quiet conversation with a couple of our favorite boys, Daniel and Omar. We talked about the usual stuff -- American pop culture, our favorite adult beverages, and how poor our Spanish was.
Shortly thereafter, the rest of the troops arrived. They must have seen the huge bag full of sporting equipment we bought for them because they all came in arms extended, expressing some heartfelt "thank you's". We let them know that, yet again, these weren't presents from us,
Thanks to your generosity, we were also able to order a ton of pies and breadsticks from Pizza Hut (which, remarkably, tastes exactly like the Pizza Hut in The States), a huge dulce-de-leche cake, and a bunch of soda. It was a nice break for them from their usual lunch of buttered bread and coffee.
Leaving was tough. Like I said, we felt like our relationship was peaking and we were really making strides with them, and then it was time to leave. There were a lot of hugs and thanks back and forth, and almost every one of them asked us when we were coming back. We were honest and told them we didn't know but that if it were at all possible, we'd be back. Kandi got a "you're a really good person" from Daniel, Diego finally called me his friend, and Omar told us that if we didn't come back he'd kick our asses. And that's about as much of a compliment as you'll get from Omar.
One tangible gift we'll take from the boys came in the form of a signed t-shirt with messages like "Goodbye friends," "Best friends 4 ever," "Tank you," and "Te quiero" (I love you). I have a feeling this incredible memento will find its way to a wall in our next home. (Click on the pic below for a close up of the tee).
We also learned a lot about ourselves simply from being outside of our comfort zones, and for me, being in an orphanage for abused and neglected teenage boys in Costa Rica is pretty far outside of my comfort zone. Almost every day, we were brought to that boundary of what we're comfortable with, and then had to decide if we wanted to cross it or not. That process alone shed a very bright light on where our strengths and weaknesses lie.
For example, I personally learned that in the face of chaos I tend to have a calming influence on others -- something I was able to learn because there was a lot of chaos there, and because I chose to do what I could to soothe it. I also saw how my own fears (in this case, fears of being physically hurt by these kids) acted as an impediment to forming strong bonds. When I was able to ease my own fears, a process that took a couple of weeks, my relationships with the boys grew by leaps and bounds. There are so many other examples of us expanding our awareness of what we're capable of and what we're not, and we're so grateful for all of them.
For example, I personally learned that in the face of chaos I tend to have a calming influence on others -- something I was able to learn because there was a lot of chaos there, and because I chose to do what I could to soothe it. I also saw how my own fears (in this case, fears of being physically hurt by these kids) acted as an impediment to forming strong bonds. When I was able to ease my own fears, a process that took a couple of weeks, my relationships with the boys grew by leaps and bounds. There are so many other examples of us expanding our awareness of what we're capable of and what we're not, and we're so grateful for all of them.
Oddly enough, I just did my daily Facebook perusal and one of my friends had this status update, which pretty much sums up my above rant in a much more succinct fashion:
"Our real blessings often appear to us in the shape of pains, losses and disappointments; but let us have patience and we soon shall see them in their proper figures." -Joseph Addison
In the few days that we've been back home, Kandi and I have both said we just feel oddly different, even though we can't exactly place how just yet. It feels like it's going to take a while for all of this to settle, and I think we're both excited for that process. Part of what's making us feel different, I think, is how rich of an experience we've had. It's hard to put it into words much beyond that, but we just feel like we've stretched and tested ourselves every day of this trip. And just about every day we were exposed to something new. A perfect example: on our last day in Santa Teresa, I took my first surfing lesson. Then, completely exhausted and exhilarated on the walk back from the beach, for the first time in my life, I saw a cat with no tail.
And to think some of you doubted I could deliver the Hollywood ending!
Thank you so much for reading and for being a part of this.